When couples decide that divorce is necessary, both partners
will likely endure a roller coaster of emotions. When kids are involved, the
entire family may struggle with how to process the change.
Regardless of whether you have children or not, good communication
can be one of the most effective methods for dealing with divorce. Talking to
your soon-to-be-ex –spouse may not be on top of your list, but communication is
a healthy way to process the emotions you’re experiencing.
The
American Psychological Association suggests that it may be helpful to
create an agenda or list of topics you want to discuss before you meet. It’s
best to do this when you’re feeling calm and clear headed. Have your
soon-to-be-ex do the same thing. Then you can use your lists as a guide for the
discussion. Research indicates that this may take some of the emotion out of
face-to-face discussions.
If you feel in-person discussions might be too emotional,
consider having the conversation through email, but try to avoid using negative
or angry language.
You should also remember to take time for yourself as you
process the divorce. As you work through the emotional cycle, consider trying a
new activity or joining a new group. And try to stay physically healthy by
eating right and exercising.
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