Child custody mediations

As discussed in other blog posts, divorce can be an especially troubling time for kids. Parents who are concerned about the stress that a divorce may put on kids may want to consider using a mediation process to develop their child custody plans.

Family law attorneys increasingly use mediation as a way to help them craft custom child custody plans for their clients, and it may be a good option for you. The mediation process allows parents to work together to create a parenting plan that puts the kids first and is mutually beneficial to both parents. Depending on what both parties need, the ultimate plan can help put structure around how and when the kids the will be exchanged, who will spend holidays where, and any other special issues the family may be facing. Studies show that when parents mediate, the likelihood that litigation will be required is drastically reduced by upwards of 70 percent fewer cases reaching the courtroom.

It’s important during the mediation process for you and your ex to focus on the kids, and not just on your own needs. Ask your attorney before the mediation begins about the process so that you know what to expect. And talk to him or her about what your goals and expectations are so that you two are on the same page when the mediation begins.

Think of the custody discussion independently of any other issues you and your ex may be discussing during your divorce. Acknowledge that in most cases, kids need time with both parents, so you will have to continue seeing your ex. Be prepared to discuss both short-term and longer-term goals, and be prepared to keep discussing many of the issues you and your ex bring up in the mediation session.

For more tips on mediation, read this article.