The holidays can be stressful for any family, but for those
who are newly divorced, going through a divorce or contemplating a divorce,
they can be particularly troubling.
If you are newly divorced or working through a divorce, and
you and your ex share custody of your kids, it’s important to ensure they are
the focus of the holiday season. That doesn’t mean you need to buy them extra
toys or gifts, but it does mean that you and your ex should clearly plan for
the holiday season. Consider some of the following as the holidays approach:
- Develop a clear plan with your ex about when and where the kids will be for each holiday. If you both plan to see the kids during their holiday breaks from school, ensure you have specified times to exchange them and stick to the schedule you agree upon before the break occurs.
- Talk to your ex about gifts so that you don’t purchase the same things for your children. Also make sure that your kids know that spending time with them is more important than any gifts either parent may buy them.
- Consider incorporating some of the traditions your family had before the divorce, but also think about making some new traditions with your kids that you’ll be able to continue in years to come.
- Prioritize your kids throughout the process by sticking with a schedule that they’re familiar with. By minimizing the changes to their schedules, you can also minimize the stress they may be feeling for a first holiday season without the full family.
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